What It Means to Be an Introvert: And How I Deal
If you've ever met me in real life, probably one of the last words that would come to mind is "introvert". I'm confident, loud, talk a lot, and am very expressive. Not words you'd use to describe an "introvert", right? Wrong.
I took a personality test a few years ago (I went through a phase where I was obsessed with them), and was kind of shocked to find out that I was almost 100% introverted. And then, the more quizzes I took, the results all came back the same: I was an introvert. Who knew?
What it means to be an introvert
Most people assume being extroverted = outgoing, and introverted = shy. That's the definition I grew up with. But what it really means to be an introvert or extrovert is how you recharge your brain. To sum it up, extroverts gain energy by being around other people. They love being social and surrounded by their friends and family. Introverts, on the other hand, recharge by spending time alone. They're independent and tend to get exhausted being in large groups of people. You can learn more about the difference between the two here!
How I deal with being an introvert
I hate to say our world is built for extroverts, but I've found that it is. I've struggled a bit in the past few years dealing with being an introvert. Here are a few ways I've coped:
One // Educating people on what an introvert really is
First things first, when you're confident and talkative like I am, NO ONE believes that you're an introvert. Everyone tells me I must have "taken the test wrong", or that I don't really know myself. When really, people just need to be educated on what an introvert really is. Encourage your friends and family to take personality tests, like Myers Briggs, so you can all better understand your different personality types and what they mean. I also love the 16 Personalities test!
Two // Getting better at dating an extrovert
Josh LOVES being around people. He thrives in big family gatherings around the holidays and loves being around big groups of friends. Over the past few years, we've gotten much better at understanding that he's an extrovert, I'm an introvert, and we can both co-exist as long as we can communicate what we need from each other.
Three // Learning how to say no
Because I need to recharge by being alone, there are times that I have to duck out of certain situations and take a breather. Sometimes after a long day, the last thing I want to do is be around other people. I'm learning to say no when I need to and learning how to speak up when I just need to take a break or go home.
Are you an introvert, or an extrovert? How do you deal?